We’re all familiar with the saying that “honesty is the best policy.” Yet, it seems to be more of a theory to which we aspire rather than a behavior that we practice.
This is evident in the euphemisms we attach to the alternative. To call it lying offends people, even if it’s an apt word. Ministers of the British Parliament can be temporarily expelled from the House of Commons for calling another MP a liar. An apology, whether the accusation is appropriate or not, is required to be readmitted.
So, instead, of referring to lying as such and those who do it as liars, we call it “being economical with the truth,” or “telling a white lie” as if that made any difference, or “misspeaking” as Richard Blumenthal has admitted recently in his false claims about serving in Viet Nam.
What’s so remarkable about the Blumental incident is that it’s only since the dual Gulf commitments that fighting a war has become acceptable to American society. Before that, and especially during the Viet Nam era, participation in a foreign war was considered to be reprehensible, something one avoided at all costs, and if that wasn’t possible, then no one bragged about being involved in it.
Because so many different opinions are held, politicians have to become adept at compromise. But, this should never mean attempting to pass off lies as truth. We have to ask ourselves when, if ever, it is right to put expedience ahead of honesty.
As remarkable as it may seem, lying on everything from CVs to corporate accounts has become so rampant that companies are placing honesty at the top of the list of desirable characteristics of candidates.
For myself, I avoid lying as much as a can to the extent that various colleagues have told me over the years that I’m too honest. I don’t think you can be “too honest.” On the other hand, I don’t think we need to tell people everything we know. If, however, our behavior gives others an incorrect perception of ourselves such that we look better than we are, then I think we’re obligated to correct them. To fail to do so would be to lie implicitly.
I’m interested to hear what you think on this topic. It’s something that needs much more open discussion.
Bruce Hoag, PhD, CPsychol
Work Psychologist
Author of Managing Value-Based Organizations (co-author Cary L Cooper)
http://www.p-advantage.com
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