There are three issues in your question: What you need to do; leadership; and where you need to be. I'm not restating these things to be pedantic, but in order to provide a structure for my comments.
Let's start with the last one first. You probably know that where you are now is the result, in large measure, of your actions. So even though you may have used different styles of leadership in the past, on this occasion anyway, you didn't choose the one you needed the most.
It may not be entirely your fault, but it is ultimately your responsibility. So we have to consider what you should have done. Of course, it's possible that the people you were supposed to lead weren't capable of being led; but, as the leader, successful leadership has to begin with you. Many so-called leaders try to put the blame for the failure-to-follow on those they are supposed to be leading; but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt. I'll assume that you have the necessary leadership traits; it's just that in this case, you led them to some place other than where they needed to be.
Let's consider the second point. For my money, the evidence of leadership is always that there are willing followers. Coercion is not leadership. So, if people have followed you thus far, then it means that you led them there. If on the other hand, you arrived where you needed to be on your own - that is, that those who should have followed you ended up somewhere else - then whatever else you have done, you haven't led them. The problem, therefore, is with your different styles of leadership; and it's possible that you haven't fully developed your own leadership traits.
This brings us to the third part of your question: What do you need to do differently? That really depends on whether they followed you or not. If they followed you, but you ended up somewhere other than where you needed to be, then you need to examine your own path to see where you deviated from the goal.
If they didn't follow you, then you need to recall that point at which they stopped following you. Go back there and find out what happened. What different styles of leadership did you use? Why did they stop following you? Why did they go their own way?
Until you can understand your leadership traits and the different styles of leadership available to you, you'll never be able to change your preferred style so that you can lead the way you want to.
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